6 mistakes 90% of men innocently make in bed and how to avoid them

Sex is a simple thing to the average mind.
Is it not just about touching bodies and linking genitals – penis in vagina, mouth on mouth and hands on body.
But that is just the ordinary mind’s way of thinking.
In reality, sex is more and can be much more than that if both partners are willing to go the extra mile. To be fair, most men are so unfair with their women when it comes to sex – failing to realize that, for most women, sex is as emotional as it is physical, and are desperately in need of a change of thinking and approach.


Men think sex starts and stops in the bedroom – the average man can just switch on his sex bulb at any time, without prior warning but the average woman needs to be mentally prepared for arousal to be complete. What this means is that women need to be encouraged, led and escorted to arousal through kissing, hugging, talking, holding hands and just having fun together. The more she feels relaxed with you, she’ll be more into having sex with you. So show love outside the bedroom first.

Men think women know or get exactly what they want in bed – one thing that limits the potentials of sex for many couples is that the men assume that the women already know what they want done to them in bed. Also, they assume that women do not need more than they get.

So, if they intended to make a sex move that could have been mutually beneficial, then don’t, just because they think the women know or is enjoying what they have done so far. Instead, learn to suggest, ask her if she wants this or that. Or give her a blank cheque “what do you want me to do.”

Men think women like a sex routine – it is so wrong to approach sex with the same plan each time. It becomes boring and women don’t like boring. You must be able to bend sex to meet her moods.

When she is feeling tired, you should approach it gently and when she is feeling feisty, go ballistic. You don’t have to stick to rigid plan. Observe her and do the things you see she responds to and be innovative.

Men think penetrative sex is all that is needed – this is the biggest fallacy many men hold as truth. They think pumping for hours is the way out so they gun for it like true men.

What they do not know is that most sex positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris, making it hard for them to be sufficiently stimulated, The best thing is to first get her going by stimulating the erogenous zones, not only the clitoris, with tongue and hand before going penetrative.

Men think the clitoris is the only temple – there is this overt attention paid to the clitoris that is just sad. Yes, the clitoris is one of the main keys of arousal,

but there are nerve endings spread all over the vulva and inside the vagina which could be explored. So do not stick to the clitoris alone – too much touching could also hurt her there.